A Fat Chick Trying to Find Herself: family

Family Packed Weekend

Mon, 21 Apr 2008 16:23:56 GMT

I was looking forward to this weekend and dreading it for the past few months. The dread was due to the fact that I’ve put on a lot of weight due to my depression and there is the whole subject of my depression. But for the most part I had a great weekend with my family.

Friday night I enjoyed a wonderful dinner out with My Prince. We had SO much fun it really lifted my spirits. After dinner we went to Wal-mart to finish up my last minute shopping for this weekend. I had to buy birthday gifts for my great uncle. We were throwing him an 80^th birthday party and I had a hard time finding him something appropriate. We ended up getting him a family photo frame, a robe, and slippers.

On Saturday I woke up early with My Prince and grabbed a bite to eat for breakfast. Then I went home to get ready for the party. I was SO excited because not only was my family from out of town coming but my Pappy from Arizona was coming too! It was so good seeing everyone! I had a blast with my cousins that I hadn’t seen in a while. My uncle seemed to have a good time as well.

Then on Sunday my Pappy wanted to do a brunch with the family before heading towards Maryland with my out of town Aunt and Uncle. We got up bright and early and I was thrilled that I was able to sit right next to my Pappy during brunch. I miss him so much! I told him I want to come see him in December. I just hope that I can. He will be turning 80 this December as well.

Then My Prince and I went to a bunch of open houses and found The. Perfect. House! We’ll be making another visit with My Prince’s parents to get their opinions on it. I’m crossing my fingers that we can get it.

That was my weekend. Now I’m back to the daily grind. One of the exciting things going on in town today is that Hillary Clinton will be speaking a few blocks away from my office. I’m going to walk over to hear her on my lunch break.

Tomorrow is the PA primary election day! Don’t forget to vote!
~FC

Sister Stress

Fri, 14 Mar 2008 14:30:06 GMT

My sister’s fiancé decided to break up with her Wednesday night. She called me yesterday and kept me on the phone for longer than what’s appropriate for work. I can’t say that I’m upset about this development because she was yet another loser on her chain of loser guys. Just file another one away in the Loser Ex-Files. They were planning on getting married in October. Thank goodness this one didn’t make it to the bridal shower like the last one did. But needless to say she is still embarrassed about telling friends and family how she is no longer engaged (again) and how she’s not getting married (again). But this is my sister’s vicious cycle if you go back into my archives I wrote a post all about her.

Don’t get me wrong, I definitely feel bad about my sister but I’m happy that she’s not marrying this idiot. It hurts me to hear my sister experience this pain and I wish I could help her. They are going to continue to live together for another two weeks and then they are both moving out. They were planning on moving out at the end of this month any way.

She needs me and I’m trying to be there for her but…

~ FC

P.S. I did not make my 30-minute walk last night, I spent too much time on the phone. I’m going to ask My Prince to walk with me this weekend though.

Tough Love

Thu, 15 Nov 2007 14:39:22 GMT

Tuesday night I did something that was extremely hard to do but was necessary. My sister, Missy, called me for the second time asking me if she and her fiancé could come stay at my place for a few days because her electricity had been turned off due to her not being able to pay the bill. I told her, “No”. Here’s why…

Missy is 27 years old and acts about 16. When we were younger my sister always did better than me in everything. I was constantly jealous of her and wanted to be just like her. She got all the good grades and was the ‘smart’ child of the family. She seemed perfect in every way to everyone around me. It drove me insane!

Then my parents got divorced when I was 16 and she was 18; that was the year my sister lost her brain. She flunked out of three different colleges, has had (at least) five different loser boyfriends, and lacks all of the knowledge and common sense of what it means to be an adult. The only “excuse” I can come up with for her is that my father’s alcoholism and my parent’s divorce messed her up so bad emotionally that it has stunted her mentality and emotional growth to that of a 16 year old.

Missy doesn’t know how to manage money, that she and she alone is responsible for her and her life, and that her fiancé really is just another loser. She has a reoccurring pattern to her life. It goes something like this:

q Find loser boyfriend

q Support him financially (because she always ends up making more money then they do and her job doesn’t pay that well to begin with)

q Live together

q Get engaged

q Become depressed because of financial woes

q Lose fiancé

q Start search for new loser

And rinse and repeat….

Missy has been doing this her entire adult life. It started with her high school “sweetheart” and just continued from there. I washed my hands of my sister’s ways a long time ago. I learned how she works and how she doesn’t learn from her mistakes. My parents and even my grandfather have bailed her out of financial trouble more times than I can count. I think I leant her money a total of 3 times in the earlier years. She never paid me back and when I asked for it back she treated me like I was the bad guy. So, after that happened three times I never leant her money again; I learned very quickly.

Now let me take you back about two weeks ago. Missy called me while at work, hysterical, and after scaring the crap out of me had her fiancé confess to me that their electricity had been turned off and asked if they could come stay with me for a day. I don’t do these kinds of favors for Missy because I feel they just further enable her to continue making the same mistakes over and over again. But this time I let her and her fiancé come over for the night. The next morning they both complained about the bed I provided and were ungrateful for what I did. I decided then and there that I would not let them come over again.

Jump ahead to Tuesday. Missy called my cell phone and work phone about ten times and left voicemails each time. I tried to ignore it because I knew she just wanted something. But finally I relented and answered my phone. After we greeted each other she blurted out, “We need to stay with you again.” This enraged me and I responded with, “It’s more like, can you stay with me?” The conversation just went downhill from there. She told me that they didn’t have the money to pay for their electricity and it had been turned off, again. I told her that I would call her after my class was over to let her know if she could come over or not.

I had to prep myself for what I was going to say. I came up with this, “One time, one night, is one thing. But a second time and over several days is too much. I’m sorry, call Mom.” I had talked to my Mom before I made this call and decided to tell her this. All Missy said was, “ok” three times and we hung up. I could hear the disappointment in her voice and it killed me. I spent the next thirty minutes talking to My Prince telling him how big of a piece of crap I was (of course he told me I wasn’t). I felt awful and had a hard time getting to sleep. But I still wouldn’t change what I did.

I called my Mom on Wednesday to find out if Missy was at her house and she wasn’t. I talked to my Dad as well and he said that she was not there either. So now we have no idea where she went if she went anywhere at all. My Mom is going to have a confrontation with Missy this weekend because she’s been pulling this crap for almost ten years. She simply does not learn from her mistakes.

So now on to me, I’ve gained weight this week I’m ashamed to admit it and I’m expecting a visit from Aunt Flo who has decided that I should be depressed and eating everything in sight. I just feel like I’m in a bad place right now (emotionally).

This has been my life this week. I’m ready for the weekend.

~ Fat Chick

R.J.'s Wedding

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 14:51:57 GMT

R.J.’s wedding was SO much fun! The weekend started off Friday night. My Prince and I drove to my Aunt Bee’s house, which is a three and a half hour drive from my house. When we arrived we found the groom to be and his groomsmen having a party. They were in the backyard drinking and setting off fireworks. After congratulating and talking to R.J., My Prince and I went for a brief walk and then turned in for the night.

The next morning we were woken up by the sounds of a bunch of people walking around and making a ruckus. After I dragged My Prince out of bed we had breakfast and then got to work. Aunt Bee needed help cleaning up the mess the boys had made the night before and help preparing everyone for the wedding. My Prince and I both worked very hard to do all that we could. Finally, it was time to go to the reception hall where the wedding was going to be. Once we got there Aunt Bee realized she had forgotten the rose petals for part of the ceremony and looked right at me. So I was lucky enough to be the one to race back to the house and get the rose petals, which weren’t even used during the ceremony. Was I upset? Probably.

The ceremony was beautiful, quick, and to the point, just the way I like them. It was outside right off of the lake it was truly amazing. After the ceremony we went to the reception hall where we were given drinks and little finger foods. Then the new bride and groom returned and we were able to eat the food. All of the dancing was then under way and we partied like it was 1999. Everyone seemed to have a great time. I had a wonderful time catching up with family. I also found out that one of my childhood friends (who was there) will be moving to Pittsburgh next week. I am SO excited! I told him we’d have to hang out when he got here. At the end of the night we returned to our hotel and crashed into bed.

We were up again early the next day for a family brunch. My Prince and I were running 30 minutes late but were still able to participate and spend time with the family. When brunch ended we went to Aunt Bee’s house and spent more time with family. We left around 3pm and relaxed the rest of the night once we got home. Overall I’d say it was a fantastic weekend.

My Birthday

Yesterday I was showered with cards, small gifts, and special birthday wishes which was wonderful. I had my cake at the office, which was chocolate icing with vanilla cake, my favorite. After work I went home and got into a dress and was then taken out to eat by My Prince. We went to the Cheesecake Factory and ate outside. It was beautiful! We both thoroughly enjoyed the evening and ended at My Prince’s house snuggling. I couldn’t have asked for a better birthday. But I will be celebrating my birthday with friends and family on July 14^th because I want a party. So that’s still yet to come, YAY!

Coming up

This weekend My Prince and I don’t have anything spectacular planned. But the following weekend we’re going to Myrtle Beach for a full week! I can hardly wait!

There’s just so much going on and I love it!

~ Fat Chick

Wedding!!!

Fri, 15 Jun 2007 19:27:40 GMT

Tonight My Prince and I are heading out for my cousin's wedding. I'm SO excited! I can barely wait! I still can't believe he's getting married. I'll have lots to post next week and hopefully some pics!!!

Have a great weekend,
~ Fat Chick

Weekend

Tue, 17 Apr 2007 14:05:24 GMT

I had a lot of fun last weekend. Aside from the sleep depravation and silly bridal shower games I had a good time.

Saturday

On Saturday I started my day off at an early 5:50am. I got showered and dressed but not ready for the bridal shower because I was way too tired and knew that I would be sleeping in the car. I don’t know about you but I can’t do my hair nice and pretty, sleep in the car, and wake up looking like my hair was just done.

After a somewhat painful 3-hour drive to my Aunt Bee’s house with my mother and sister we arrived to a house already filled with guests. I saw a lot of aunts and cousins that I haven’t seen in a long time. It was nice to catch up with them. But of course Aunt Bee was in stressed out mode so I sacrificed myself (lol) and offered to help. At times it can be quite scary offering to help my Aunt but she wasn’t as bad as I thought she was going to be. Needless to say, by the time the party was to be started I was ready for a shot of Jack Daniels and/or a cookie, lol.

The party was your typical party and I sat in the back with my fun aunts and laughed most of the time during the games. Then somehow I was chosen to make the ribbon hat and bouquet. Yes, you read that correctly… I said hat. My aunt pulled out a straw hat for me to decorate with ribbons and bows from Holly’s* presents. Being the crafty person that I am I made it look pretty instead of just shoving ribbons and bows haphazardly all over the hat and plate bouquet. The bride-to-be was quite pleased with my handy work.

After the party had finally ended, my cousin R.J. (who is the groom-to-be) came home. I was so happy to see him. It’s been a year since I last saw him so it was great just catching up with him. I’m always telling people (and him) that he is the big brother I always wanted. R.J. needed some extra help unloading all of the gifts at his apartment so he invited my cousin and I to come along. Plus he wanted to show me where he lives.

Going to R.J.’s place was one of the best times I had the whole weekend. After unloading the car he grabbed me by the hand and pulled me down on his bed (just like when we were kids), grabbed a photo album, and bounced down onto the bed next to me so that we could flip through and reminisce. I haven’t laughed that hard in a long time. It was wonderful!

Later we made plans to go out to a bar in my cousins’ hometown. This was a fun time as well. We went to a local bar in the area and before I knew it childhood friends were constantly surrounding me. During the summers when I was still in school I would go to my cousins’ house for a visit and usually stayed there for the whole three months we had off of school. As you can imagine all of my cousins’ friends soon became my friends. It was mind blowing to hear how this one is married, this one has four kids, this one is opening his own bar soon, etc.

Once we turned in for the night I crashed hard. I was simply exhausted and could not go any more.

Sunday

I woke up early again and had a wonderful breakfast with my family. But as the saying goes, “all good things must come to an end”. After spending the morning together with the family we headed home. I met up with My Prince for dinner and to watch the Penguins’ hockey game. Sadly we lost the game.

That was my weekend. It makes me even more excited about the wedding in June.

Tonight I am going to the Penguins’ playoff hockey game. It will be my first ever playoff hockey game in person and I am completely jazzed about going (to say the least).

Happy Tuesday All,

~ Fat Chick